It’s understandable that parents worry about their kids. But the most destructive thing
parents can do is violate the bond of trust they share with their children. Teenagers want to feel comfortable approaching their parents with their problems. That can happen only if concerns about web activity are resolved through honest discussion, not spying.
It’s ironic—and unfortunate—that many parents who decide to spy on their kids online do so out of fear that their sons and daughters don’t trust them. They worry that if something does go wrong, their children may not feel comfortable coming to them. And so, to protect their kids, parents eavesdrop.
They end up, however, achieving the opposite: They push their children further away and drive any dangerous activities—if there are any—further into the shadows.
Parents may insist on having a child’s email password, for instance. But that will, in many cases, lead teens to create a secret email account that adults will never see. If parents insist on following their kids on Instagram or Snapchat, kids may come up with a new profile that their parents are unaware of.