I swim on my college team, and not to brag or anything, but I do really well. I love practices and my teammates. But the actual swim meets make me super anxious. I hate the experience beforehand, but I love having raced after the fact—if that makes sense. Any advice? —Paolo
I played tennis in school, and not to brag or anything, but I was definitely the worst player on the team. (Oh, and I threw up from nerves before most matches.) I understand exactly what you’re saying. Competing can be terrifying. Talk with a few close teammates about your prerace jitters. I bet many of them feel just like you. You can support each other. Also, start meditating. A short daily practice (with a group or an app) can help reduce anxiety. Here’s a sad fact, though: Even when we’re totally prepared, sometimes we have to swim scared.
—Adapted from “Social Q’s” in The New York Times Magazine