After a year of sharing a lease on an apartment, my roommate told me—in the spirit of setting boundaries—that she doesn’t want me to be friends with any of her friends. The problem: Our worlds are already entwined. We met in college, so many of our friends are mutual. And my best friend at work is a close friend of hers. What should I do? (Note: We are coming to the end of our lease soon.) —ROOMMATE

Your roommate’s inability to recognize the web of connectedness that already exists between you strikes me as oddly self-centered. Also, friends are not personal property. I would ignore her request but give her space in the apartment, and don’t crash her plans. It may also be wise to consider a new roommate (or another apartment) rather than renewing your lease together.

—Adapted from “Social Q’s” in The New York Times Magazine