While staying at a hotel and sitting by the pool, I asked the attendant to speak to a group of guests who were playing loud music. Later, members of the group pointed at me, which made me feel uncomfortable. Did I handle this appropriately? Should I have spoken to the group myself? —Hotel Guest
You did nothing wrong! The pool attendant’s job is to maintain a communal space that’s enjoyable for everyone. The only problem I see here is that the attendant seems to have told the music-blaring guests that you lodged the complaint, which was unnecessary. They should simply have said that loud music is prohibited at the pool.
—Adapted from “Social Q’s” in The New York Times Magazine